Advice on Love from a Reformed Cheater

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We’ve a pretty typical marriage. My wife loves me very much, and I do love her. However, temptation kicked in and the fact that I had to work a long period of time away from home, 9-13 days was typical. Surrounded by many gorgeous women I couldn’t help it, I gave in to my temptation. I had many lengthy affairs. My wife knows about most of them, it broke her heart.

This was going on for years. I did not want my wife to suffer any longer, so I totally stopped. So, what it is that helped keep our marriage alive, and also helped deepen our intimacy. The experts don’t exactly tell you this. There are many factors but one and only one that matters is “LOVE”.

In order to have a long lasting relationship, one must truly love the other. I’m not talking about the totally crazy for you kind of love when you are in the very beginning of your relationship. That’s called being in love. It’s a great feeling however every couple should aim for a stronger one. A stronger love consists of trust, forgiveness, and understanding of each other.

I completely broke the trust of my wife. However, the love I have for her had saved our marriage. It also help build her trust back up bit by bit everyday. Forgiveness is an important key for every kind of relationship. We tend to do something that upset one another on regular basis. Therefore, you must be able to forgive when your significant other did something that upset you. It’s very hard but not impossible and you can learn to do this. There is not a step-by-step guide to teach you how, you just learn it by experience.

Another good trait of being a wonderful partner especially for guy, apart from great listening skill, is that you’ve to learn to give. It’s important to get her attention from time to time, much like when you were first dating. Give her gift, no matter how small it is especially on a non-occasion day. It doesn’t have to be her birthday in order for you to give her a gift be it sexy lingerie or simply cooking her breakfast. The key is to do something special when you absolutely don’t have to.

Oh, if you’re going to get a gift for your wife or girlfriend give it some thought about what you’re buying, don’t just get flowers all the time. They are nice to get from time to time but not all the time. Be original and thoughtful. Make it your mission to compliment her at least once a week. Do take her out for shopping from time to times, or stay in and shop online especially for intimate clothing such as sexy lingerie, it help bond the two of you even further.

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