Two Making Up

A happy marriage doesn’t come easily just because you love each other. Although love is very important part of a marriage sometimes it’s not enough and you have to work at your marriage like any relationship. Communication and consideration of each others feelings are two of the emotional parts that are critical to a happy marriage. The details of household responsibilities and financial matters can enter into the state of a marriage. It is important to realize that a marriage is a relationship with many sides that needs to be nurtured in order to be successful.

1.When both of you are willing to make sacrifices, that is one secret to a happy marriage. At times both of you must be willing to put your partner’s happiness ahead of your own from time to time for the marriage to work. When one partner is completely selfish and not willing to make sacrifices it will cause resentment in a marriage. Sometimes the sacrifices will be big but most often it’s usually the little things that matter most. Something as simple as cooking a dish that you don’t like but you know your spouse likes it lets your partner know that you care.

2. It is true that making sacrifices is important in a happy marriage, it is also at times important to do things that are just for you. It’s great to have a lot of mutual interests but it’s also good to have some things that you enjoy doing on your own. Sometimes separate activities can give you a little time away and that will give you a chance realize how much you miss them when you are apart. It can also provide you an opportunity to do things on your own and helps prevent boredom in the relationship.

3. An affectionate relationship is a secret to a happy marriage. Physical closeness and sharing  will keep your marriage happy. Especially the small gestures such as hugs or holding hands give you the chance to stay connected with your spouse.

4. A very common source of stress in a marriage are finances, it is important to do your best not to allow your finances to destroy your marriage. Where finances are concerned it is important to discuss any issues or problems so both partners are aware of what is going on and to work on the issues together. Working together on financial issues will make sure that neither one of you feel left out and neither of you has to deal with the stress of worrying about finances on their own.

5. When both partners share the responsibilities of the household it makes for a happy marriage. When one partner feels that they are taking on too much household responsibility it can lead to resentment. Sharing these responsibilities can prevent resentment and it also gives the couple a chance to work as a team which strengthens their bond. The partners both need to take a role in the household chores and let their partner know if they are beginning to feel otherwise.

6. Communication is necessary for a happy marriage. Lack of communication in the relationship will always cause struggle. Always being honest with your partner, share your concerns and to listen to what your partner has to say and make an effort to understand their side. Open communication about everything is important but it’s especially important to communicate about your aspirations and even your daily lives. Communication of all types will bring a couple closer together and create a happy marriage.

7. Going along with communication, it’s also important to let your partner know if they have said or done some thing to hurt you. Holding these feelings in to be brought up at a later date will cause problems in the marriage. Bottling up your feelings will not let your partner know what they have done to hurt you and they may repeat their actions. You be angry and avoid your partner because you don’t want to start a confrontation. Then your partner may sense you behaving differently and be upset with your behavior. Coming out and discussing with your partner why you are upset will help you avoid unnecessary problems.

8. Realizing that you both won’t always be in agreement is also important to a happy marriage. You may agree on many things but it’s  not realistic to think that you and your partner will be in agreement at all times. Its is normal to disagree at times as long as you respect each others feelings and do not think that any one disagreement will be the end of your relationship.

9. A little excitement and spontaneity can play a big part of a happy marriage. When both of you fall into ruts and routines that may lead to boredom, but being a little exciting and spontaneous at times will prevent boredom from setting in and help keep the relationship interesting.

10. Most importantly, remembering why you married your spouse is one of the secrets of a happy marriage. When you remember what it is about your spouse that attracted you to them, that will make certain that you never forget your love for your partner. It will also reaffirm that they are always beautiful to you. Things will change throughout the span of your marriage but one thing that will always remain and that is the reason you fell in love in the first place.

There are no guarantees for a happy marriage no matter how much the partners love each other. There are numerous variables that can and will have an effect on the happiness and success of your marriage. Success will depend on both partners realizing that they must always be working on all of these aspects if they want their marriage to remain a happy.

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